Feng Shui Success Story: Dealing with “Sucky Neighbors” & Mirrors

Noisy Neighbors“For the last several months, I have been dealing with a very troublesome noisy neighbor situation. I love my apartment, and in all the years I’ve lived here, I had never had a neighbor problem until last fall, when a couple of very social guys moved in next door. They immediately began to have noisy parties nearly every weekend. Their party space was a large deck, located about fifty feet from my bedroom (our houses are VERY close together).

I tried a variety of approaches over the months to help these guys understand my need for sleep…to no avail. Letters and calls to their landlord, letters and calls to them…nothing really worked. A few weeks ago, while reading your book, I read about “deflecting” the energy of (as you called them on page 218) “sucky neighbors.” I put a mirror in my bedroom window, facing outward. This mirror has special meaning for me: it’s from the home of an aunt whom I loved very much. Seeing the mirror reminds me of her house, a place where I always felt safe and happy.

Within a few days of putting the mirror in the window, I received an e-mail from a police lieutenant. This officer had been brought into the noisy neighbor situation after I wrote a letter to my neighborhood association. In his e-mail, the officer stated that he had met with my loud neighbors and “read them the riot act.” They have been quiet as MICE for the last two weeks. Not even a loud conversation out on the “party deck.”  Wow.

Can’t wait to put some other cures in place and see what happens!”



Remember, mirrors can do several things depending on your intention:

1.      They can erase – like when you have a wall too close in front of a doorway you can add a mirror to “push that wall back.” Make sure your whole head is reflected in this one!

2.      They can double things – like when you want to have eight burners instead of four for a prosperity boost – you add a mirror near the stove to reflect the burners. A little one will do here – perhaps 4 to 6 inches in diameter.

3.      They draw in – like when you want to bring in a room that is “outside the bagua.” I’d say an average is about 8 to 12 inches in diameter for this one.

4.      And they deflect – like when you have “sucky neighbors.” I usually try to deflect them away from the farthest point I can. If you have a yard around your house and you are trying to keep away the obnoxious neighbors, then put the mirror all the way out against your fence at the property line! If you can’t to that, just up against your interior wall facing out towards their house will do.


  • Celeste December 28, 2011 at 1:06 pm

    I too have had a young couple move into the adjoining condo, we share a north wall (in my career /ear sector) that also happens to be part of my video editing business studio.

    I’ve approached them multiple times, their landlord, the police and finally the condo association which got the landlord to finally get them to remove the bass speaker.

    I did place windchimes in my front yard tree (on the right of my front door) which seemed to help as they blast their music periodically rather than every weekend, However now the TV is up full volume so my question is how can I use a mirror cure?

    • Karen December 28, 2011 at 4:01 pm

      I’m not sure of the configuration that you have, but you would place a mirror somewhere between your living space and theirs (perhaps up against the wall behind furniture or a picture?) so that the mirror faces them.

  • D February 19, 2012 at 5:08 am

    My noisy neighbor lives upstairs. I can’t hang a mirror on the ceiling. Do you have a suggestion to help me sleep through four hours of video game hell ?

    • Karen February 19, 2012 at 10:14 am

      Place a mirror face up ANYWHERE above your head when you sleep – on top of a dresser, or up high in a cabinet…and then, I’d sit down and write the nicest thank you note (all with true loving feelings in your heart when writing) to that person for being son considerate of your sleeping time. The more you can believe this is a real note, the better…and if you place this note in a metal box (or wrap in aluminum foil) and place it in teh front right-hand side of your bedroom, or the entire home, you’re really juicing up the energies for yourself!

  • J March 29, 2012 at 2:19 pm

    Have angry/noisy neighbors above, so put 4 mirrors facing up however I did not set an intention. Is this as simply as intending the mirror to deflect their issues & energies away from my home?

    I have a mirror by my front door as they slam their door which is beside mine….could an intention be set to deflect their anger?

    And is their a cure to keep uninvited guests away from front door if property is for sale?
    Is their a blessing to sell the home or to release all attachments so it does sell?

  • Dr. DIm October 4, 2012 at 5:36 pm

    I know I’m risking being considered a troll. I apologize ahead of time.

    From the information given in the original post, it appears the mirror had nothing to do with it at all. It seems to me the letter of complaint to the neighborhood association was more responsible for bringing in the police and solving the noisy neighbor situation.

  • aiguan March 20, 2013 at 12:32 am

    my opposite neighbour lightings (LED white) facing directly into my front entrance and glaring towards me.

    What can i do to avoid the lights?? is it advisable to use the pa kua mirror or fu dogs???

    please help.


    • Karen March 22, 2013 at 9:31 am

      Yes, a mirror cure would work on one hand, but the helpful people box (see chapter 6 of my book Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life) would probably be a good way to tackle this. Place their names in your box, or even better write a thank you note to them for changing their lighting and put that note in your metal box in the front right-hand part of your house.

  • sarah rodriguez April 17, 2013 at 11:11 am

    I have a neighbor that deal drugs and do witchcraft. I put up the mirror facing these neighbors. It was up for a week when one morning I went out the back door and the mirror was on the ground. The colors faded and the mirror had dents . Is it still good.

    • Karen April 17, 2013 at 11:40 am

      Not 100% sure, but I’d get a new, fresh-looking and feeling one anyway.

  • Jo Ann April 24, 2013 at 7:06 am

    Re: Mirror size for deflecting noise from neighbors: Does the mirror have to be a certain size for this cure to have some success?

    • Karen May 4, 2013 at 5:11 pm

      No, but if you still hear it after doing it, consider that you need a bigger one that the one you used. :)

  • Tanis June 15, 2013 at 7:45 pm

    I have had a contentious relationship with my downstairs neighbor for 19 years. And the last three or four years she has illegally acquired a dog.
    Over the last year or so the dog has gotten noisier and noisier and noisier and to such a point that it barks at almost everything. Sometimes I think it barks just hear the sound of it’s own voice. I don’t know how to send generalized negative energy downstairs and to keep the dogs negative energy from coming up. Can I place a mirror faced down? If not how can I place it? Thanks. pretty desperate after 19 years

    • Karen June 17, 2013 at 12:09 pm

      Yes, mirror face down under furniture is a good way to go. And place the dog and the owner in your “helpful people box.” :)

  • ok December 8, 2013 at 6:35 pm

    I can tell you it works to put the mirrors where you need them I tried it and it works.I have these noisy next door neighbors in the duplex that are so noisy ,fighting at all hours of the day.They make noises like you wouldn’t believe. I finally had it when they would continue to bang and play music past 11pm.I looked up online the powers of mirrors and the adjoining wall we share from duplex I put up three mirrors kind of like in a row spaced out being about 10 inches or so I set them where they would make the most noise with the mirror facing them their wall.I was in disbelief when at first for a week no noise,no racket whats so ever.Then the next week nothing so far so good and I really believe when you set out the mirrors have the intention for good that you need them for goodness and to have peace .I set up those mirrors so whatever is setting the neighbors off to stay with them and not be brought into my space.The sizes of mirrors I used are midium sized not to big not to small and they work.

  • ok December 8, 2013 at 6:41 pm

    For J I know a question was posted in 2012 but I had similar situation living in duplex and I put cactus plants not to close to my door but by the side of my door and they are there to protect not only your house but also it seems to turn off my neighbors and they hardly come by my door since I put the cactus plants there .I added some good plants next to my door as to help balance out the energy of the cactus which is to protect the area.

  • Karen December 9, 2013 at 4:34 pm

    yes, and if a mirror breaks in feng shui it just means it was too small to do the job – not 7 years bad luck of some other superstition. :)
    Good job on thinking balance on the plants too!

  • Marie January 29, 2014 at 7:29 pm

    I have neighbor that has 2 video cameras pointing in my windows. The police won’t do anything at all. She has flashed me and threatened me in front of the police. She has even took shots at my husband. She has place dead black birds along our fence line and she practices black magic. Two days before we moved in our home she had a wedgie board and a big party on our property. We were told this by another neighbor. I have tried everything with her but have had no help with the police. Her two children have even threatened us as well. We bought this home four years ago and it’s been a nightmare ever since. Can you give me any ideas on what to do? Thank you.

    • Karen February 3, 2014 at 8:58 am

      You’re not going to like the answer, but her goes. My advice is to COUNTER BALANCE rather than COUNTER ATTACK. And you can do this all in your mind too. If she puts black birds at your fence, visualize them as white doves of peace and thank the Universe for such a generous offering. If she screams at her, retaliate by sending her compassionate well-wishes as someone who holds such anger must be quite unhappy, right? Notice your unhappiness as it relates to hers. Can you see how you are both feeding the other? Like energy attracts like energy. So unhook from the dance by being conscious of your state and QUICKLY altering it back to one of inner peace when you see she has “gotton under your skin.” Now I know this is a tall order,…so perhaps start by writing a letter of forgiveness to her. To make it possible to do, pretend that you are in the hereafter and you all were just completing the final forms that you must fill out when checking out of your bodies and into the hereafter. You both are there looking back at your parts in the play of your life and saying – WOW – we certainly had quite a show going on there didn’t we! I learned a lot – did you? Thanks for helping me learn that! Then imagine that you shake hands or hug as if two combative actors after a play.
      The quicker you learn to unhook the quicker it will dissolve. It is an energy connection and you are BOTH PLAYING A ROLE.
      Hope that helps.

  • SC March 23, 2014 at 3:53 pm

    My neighbors harass me. They blame me for noise in the basement yet they see other neighbors coming in and out of the basement making noise at all hours, I still get blamed. They take my wet laundry out of the wash and co-mingle with other peoples laundry. Take my dry clothes and place them in wet areas. Use my entry way rug to hold open doors. Slam the entry door and wall mailbox doors (located against my living room wall) and say outside my door “that will give her a taste of her own medicine” and make comments loud enough to hear through the bathroom wall. Kindness did not help, complaining to the landlord as a last resort didn’t do much. I placed wind chimes next to my side entrance, which I use as a front door, but the door that enters into the hall (across from the neighbors) I cannot place chimes or a mirror. What can I do to get them to stop touching my items and stay away from me and my family? I am here for four more years.

    • Karen March 24, 2014 at 8:10 am

      Be nice to them ENERGETICALLY by writing them thank you notes (for being such great neighbors) each day for 27 days and placing those in a metal box that is placed in the front right-hand part of your home or on that part of your desk. Do’t stop writing that note until you have changed your energy to “believe it” in your body. A note with a big grumpy attitude will not help you succeed.

  • SC March 23, 2014 at 3:56 pm

    In addition, I placed small mirrors in my windows facing outward for when they walk around my unit to get to the back to do laundry. One mirror is in my window next to the main front door and the second is in the window when they turn to my private side entrance.

  • samna March 24, 2014 at 3:15 am

    my neighbour had put mirror in their front door. It reflects my kitchen and guest room. IS it good what should i do to avoid them. their front door faces my kitchen directly which has a windows. is it good??

    • Karen March 24, 2014 at 8:05 am

      There could be many reasons why someone would use a mirror like that so I’m not 100% sure what their intentions are. They might be getting something off and away from their front door to have more access to energy or push someone else’s energy off of theirs. Even if it is the latter it would not change your home’s energy — at most, it would help you keep your energy and not have it “stray” over to their property.

  • Brigit April 20, 2014 at 3:44 am

    I have a neighbor who came over to my home and verbally assaulted me after I reminded his wife of the code rules in our neighborhood. She wanted to raise chickens in her backyard, I was pretty upset and stoped the set-up before they had began to put together the chicken hatch. They have three boys and a dog who I also reminded them to not have the dog popping in our backyard…which I have witness.
    What do you suggest I do. We want to sell our house this summer.

    • Karen April 20, 2014 at 1:53 pm

      Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life has tons to tips for such situations, but I’d especially concentrate on Chapter 6 – the Helpful People Chapter. Get them on your side with any of the cures found there and also to sell the house!

  • FAB May 13, 2014 at 2:35 pm

    Hi, we have just moved into a house which is cut in half, so when I sit in the lounge we can hear our neighbour in their lounge. They are the worst neighbours on earth. It is also a double story house so basically downstairs is cut in half but upstairs is all oirs and we are ontop of her side when upstairs and next to her when downstairs. We want her to move but she has become a pain and a noisy neighbour and is dating trash… how and what can I do. Npt sure how to place the mirror and size… pls pls help

    • Karen May 13, 2014 at 3:30 pm

      Just place the mirrors against the wall downstairs facing them and under some furniture upstairs facing down so that their energy and noise reflects back to them and does not encroach into your space. I’d also add their names to your helpful people box (chapter 6 in my book Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life) – that’s a metal box placed in the front right-hand part of your room or home from when you walk in the door.

  • Annoyed May 21, 2014 at 2:51 pm

    So glad I found your post.have been dealing with very rude noisy neighbors that blast music and bass is so loud that it enters our house even with windows and doors close. We have a long fence separating the property. Am I correct with understanding to just hang the mirror with the backside facing me? How do you hang it if there aren’t hooks on the front side. I really want to try this. Should there be more than one?

    • Karen May 21, 2014 at 3:36 pm

      It can be hidden behind a plant or even in a pot…does not HAVE TO BE HANGING. It can be leaned up against the wall on the ground – that’s what I’ve got at MY house! Start small and add if necessary until you get results (or use applied kinesiology/muscle-testing if you know it to get proper amount to work.

  • claire June 1, 2014 at 4:28 pm

    We have very annoying neighbour in our close who has caused upset to many neighbours through their rude ways, driving on gardens, causing damage and disrespectful to everyone including rubbish tipping on my garden. I have put a heart shaped mirror on the drainpipe directed at them and asked for it to either change their ways or get out of the close. Will this work Karen? Its got so bad recently that arguments are now starting to happen. Is there anything else I or the other neighbours should be doing? We have tried to reason with them but they just hunch their shoulders and/or shout back. Thanks

    • Karen June 2, 2014 at 6:22 am

      Without seeing the setup I’d say that is a good start. As with every feng shui cure, once your create it and SET STRONG INTENTIONS OF YOUR PEACEFUL SOLUTION/RESOLUTION, then you observe the results. I might go so far as to sit down and write a thank yo note to them (perhaps someday you will send it but that is not what it is for at this time) telling them how nice it is in the neighborhood (I’m assuming that is what “close” means?) now that everyone is getting along and that EVERYONE including them respects the others. The more you can get into a grateful mind/emotional state and unhook from the feelings you have now, the more that energy can quickly calm down. BE the change you want to see if that thing we are going for here – although I know, at times like this, it is way harder to do than one might think. So, unhooking your energy is step one, and then “let “energy follow thought.”

  • Yvonne Hoffman July 6, 2014 at 5:05 pm

    I live in a very difficult apartment building and stay completely to myself. I am 60 yrs. old and can barely climb the 4 flights of stairs. I have my cats and a dog. I noticed the transient neighbors had a mirror facing my deck. I just found out what this is. I am being harrassed & I have done nothing except I am a different color than they are and most of the building is. It scares me very much. This is terrible.

  • paul July 31, 2014 at 4:15 pm

    We live beside a family that does not respect personal boundaries , ie; come over unannounced , come over uninvited when we have other guests/ family ,continually come over when children are playing outside , again uninvited( they are too lazy to babysit there own ) . Our main entries are close , Our main door faces the side of their home , would a convex miior hung over our entry possibly cause them to move ?

  • Kell August 13, 2014 at 5:24 am

    My neigbour is making a loud beeping noise everytime he lock/unlock the car key. Will the mirror work for that ?

    • Karen August 14, 2014 at 1:21 pm

      Usually a chime hung between a particular noise and your house is the cure…but give the mirror a try and see! It’s all about observing the changes you make anyway!

  • Roger September 5, 2014 at 3:33 am

    Hi Karen. We have a not so friendly young couple who moved in next to our apartment a month ago. We share a wall between our balcony and bedroom. Our balconies is just outside our bedrooms. So their balcony is very close to our bedroom. Now, they continue to smoke cigarettes out on their balcony and chat in the middle of the night in balcony during weekend, despite us kindly requesting them not to do so. We have a little one, we really don’t want him to be victim of passive smoking, it is not fair for him, and cigarette smoke or noise from their balcony penetrate into our apartment unit very well. I have tried a moderate size mirror and a small mirror leaning on our wall facing their bedroom, but they still continue to do what they claim as part of their freedom. They told us they refuse to change. What can we do? Please help.

    • Karen September 5, 2014 at 9:33 am

      There’s a good book that I consider an extension of my book Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life called “Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting” by Lynn Grabhorn that has good ideas for this very thing if you have exhausted all the feng shui cures in my book like the helpful people box, and for the other cures/techniques in my book Make a Shift, Change Your Life like the Dream Diary and Plan the Party techniques…they are too long to write out but that should point you in the right direction!

  • DubhBairn78 September 24, 2014 at 3:13 pm

    I know there is a use for mirrors but my situation is much worse and I have heard about placing small brass cannons at high points of your home facing the horrible neighbors.. has anyone done this with success or loss and where would I need to place one to accomplish this success of stopping my neighbor with this feng shui technique.. Thanks

  • Kenneth October 4, 2014 at 4:37 am

    I have got neighbours who always smoke in their balcony, and the nicotine smoke drift thoroughly into our home everytime, affecting our little one. Despite multiple complaints through body corporate, they don’t listen. Any feng shui cure for that, Karen?

  • Leena December 21, 2014 at 3:12 pm

    Is aluminum foil acceptable as a mirror? I thought I would place it behind artwork I’ve already hung with the shiny side facing my neighbors.

    • Karen March 13, 2015 at 11:20 am

      I’m going to say no for this cure…BUT intention is everything so if you give it enough, perhaps it is. :) How’s THAT for an answer? :)

  • kris December 28, 2014 at 10:55 pm

    Great advice given here! I am having noisy and bizarre neighbor situations in my apartment life here. I already knew about the mirrors, and I employed them last night after a very rage filled 4 or 5 hours of my lower neighbors slamming doors so hard my place upstairs shook. they did it every 1-3 minutes continually, and even a bit a 3 am! I did call the cops. The mirrors did not work right away, but today there is total silence, do the mirrors sometimes have a delayed response? The other neighbor has been silent too. I am even wondering if they are all out of town. I did tell a friend about the mirror thing and it did work totally for her. Her neighbor no longer harasses her, or it happens very rarely now. It was immediate! I have heard of putting their name on ice in the freezer, but it feels sir tot creepy. I like your idea of changing the energy rather than counter-attack.

  • Rasmi February 18, 2015 at 1:19 am

    My main door faces the south direction and there is a glass window in the living room facing the main door (not exactly straight) and there is a bathroom window of our neighbour which is only a few feet from our house, which is visible from the main door seen through our window. We could hear the flushing of water, etc. in their bathroom from our living room which is irritating. What can we do for this.

    • Karen March 13, 2015 at 11:06 am

      sometimes a wind chime between you and a neighboring noise is a great cure – hang it outside between your home and theirs.

  • Murali March 8, 2015 at 10:42 pm


    I have a problem with my neighbors who stay opposite to my home and they are running a paying guest hostel,which is creating lot of nuisance in all aspects.Please give me a cure so that they should vacate the hostel.Nothing more than that.

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